4 In Chasing Life

A Message to the Selfish

I want to tell you a few things about me. I tend to have strong morals and opinions on certain things that affect me, my family, and those that I love. I have a big heart and there is room for a lot of love in it. I no longer have room in my heart or my life for haters, narcissists, and selfish bitches.


I more often than not get myself into trouble and alienate people for speaking my mind or my opinions. The selfish and the narcissists tend to not like the opinions of others. They don’t like that which they cannot control.  In my short time in this life, I’ve found that there are a lot of people don’t like when others think differently than they do. Does that mean that I shouldn’t be allowed to share my thoughts? Hell no! I am who I am and they are my thoughts and feelings. If you don’t share them I am not going to berate you for it… so why do so many feel it is ok to do that to me?

Why should I have to swallow my hurt feelings for the fear that if by telling someone they will ‘unfriend’ me if they don’t agree? I don’t think I should. I wouldn’t expect differently from anyone else. If I hurt someone’s feelings, I would like to know about it. If we have a differing opinion, lets agree to disagree and move on to another subject. I’m not going to be treated badly for not believing the same or for not having the exact thoughts as others.

That doesn’t even include the nasty people that are in your life solely for the benefit of themselves. I don’t need people in my life that are here only to obtain something from me, whether that be things done for them or even things purchased for them. I have a giving heart and am more than happy to do things for people that appreciate it. True friends aren’t here for things, they are here for love and friendship and I welcome you with open arms.


So this is to all the haters out there. The ones that think it’s okay to make people feel bad for thinking differently than you. F-You!
I am in control of my life, my feelings, and my heart. You want in that, then don’t be an ass hole. I will no longer allow you to dictate my feelings. I will no longer allow you to come into my life and my heart only because it benefits you in some way. I don’t need that kind of drama in my life. If you are here only because you want something from me and plan to cut and run as soon as you get what you need? Stay away, you are not welcome.

It is up to me to decide whether or not to allow people into my life and my heart, and the toxic haters are no longer welcome. I am living my life for me, for my happiness. If it is true friendship or love that you want, please come on over. If you have an agenda, then stay the F away. I don’t need you. You can keep your fake smiles and false promises and stick them where the sun doesn’t shine.

I am done being controlled by the selfish wants and needs of others.


I am ready to be me and not be ashamed of it. I am ready to keep my heart whole. I am ready to only let in the good. The rest is no longer welcome.

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    May 19, 2016 at 10:10 am

    Amen sister! I am so sorry you are dealing with such hateful toxic people lately, but good for you for putting your foot down. Sometimes enough is enough and separating yourself from these people is the best thing for YOU and that’s what really matters. The people who know you and love you, know your intentions and know you have a heart of gold! Unfortunately that means being taken advantage of. Is it fair? Hell no! But just concentrate on who and what matters and even tho it’s hard literally let go of the rest. Love you and appreciate your amazing friendship! ?

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      May 19, 2016 at 10:39 am

      Love you back! Thank you for your (as always) amazing words of encouragement!

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    May 21, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    Love this Kara! You are an amazing friend and mom! I am so grateful to have you in my life and my kid’s lives! I know it is easier said than done, but we just have to block out those negative people! Love you, my friend!

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      May 22, 2016 at 8:14 am

      I am so grateful for you and your family!

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